How often do you admire someone’s appearance or attitude or accomplishments but never speak the praise to the person you admire? How often do you receive compliments that you somehow dismiss as soon as you hear them?
I’m guessing the answer is: A LOT.
What is it about compliments that make people so uncomfortable?
I first started thinking about this many years ago. At the time, I was painfully insecure and could not, for the life of me, accept a compliment. If someone said anything nice to me, I would always find a way to deny it. It went something like this:
Friend: “You look nice today.”
Me: “Oh my gosh. No I don’t. I hate what I’m wearing, but it’s all I could find. I was in a hurry this morning.”
Then, somewhere along the line, I realized how incredibly rude that was. So, even though I still refuted the kind words in my head, I learned to simply say, “Thank you.”
As time passed and I shed some of that insecurity, I actually began to mean my words of thanks. I also got better at speaking compliments to others.
Now, I think I’m pretty good about letting people know the positive things I think about them, as well as truly accepting the nice things people say to me. Most of the time.
Of course, because of this challenge, compliments were on my mind as soon as the day began, which got me thinking about all the people I love and admire and would like to acknowledge. And then I started to get overwhelmed. If I shared every nice thought that was rushing into my head, it would take me all day. And, given the timing of the kind words, it occurred to me that they might not seem sincere.
So I decided to take a different approach. If a random nice thought occurred during the day, I would share it, but I would not allow it to snowball. I know this seems a bit contradictory to the challenge, but for me, it was necessary.
Instead of having one massive compliment-crazy day, I decided it made more sense to continue this challenge every day and strive to become better at giving and receiving words of praise all the time.
I think that’s a fantastic idea, if I do say so myself.
How did your day of compliments go?
Tomorrow’s Challenge: Go to the Library
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